One of the many things I learned growing up from my amazing female role models, being my two beautiful Grandmothers my Mum and Aunties, was to always make time to put the kettle on and have a chat with a relative or friend. “Housework will wait, people come to see you not the house” I’ve heard my Nan say many times.
It hasn’t been until I grew up and have worked with so many people who are struggling personally with being happy that I came to truly understand the importance of people being connected to others. Having people to talk to, share good news or bad, debrief with, laugh and cry together, and just be there is needed for our wellbeing.
So many people are so busy now with so much on that fitting in a visit or receiving one is just too hard. Making dates months in advance seems to have become normal these days, and there are less opportunities for a surprise visit from a relative or friend for a cuppa.
I believe it is partly what we now prioritise in society that has led people to lead such busy lives and what is contributing to some of our mental health issues and damage to our environment. Wanting more, bigger and better has a huge price to people and our planet.
Many people are working more hours than ever and then coming home and living in their insular bubbles, although they see many people every day they still feel disconnected and alone. The quality of time spent with their loved ones is not there. I haven’t found that the busiest people with the most things are the happiest, that doing extra curricular activities with all of your children every night of the week is making happier families, in fact quite the opposite.
Being able to say no to some things and freeing up some time, to just be and live moment to moment is really liberating. This is the space where being creative happens, which brings a lot of joy. Being mindful of where and how you spend your time is so important. You don’t get it back, so always check in with how happy you and your family are with what you have on and be mindful that you avoid getting bogged down in so much routine that you miss out on some of life’s simple pleasures.
I say let’s bring back the ‘making time for a cuppa with a friend’ and make it a priority to spend that little bit more time together.
Being Mindful Matters.